From the day we are born and till the day we die, the only person we have constantly through all phases in between is we OURSELVES.Don’t you think before having any other relationship with others we should be wholesome within? We all wish for happiness and peace but are we really happy? We seek our happiness in others, their actions determine our mood, How come someone else’s opinion and actions are so impactful, why we have given so much power to others over us. we always self-doubt ourselves. It's time we should stop being so hard on ourselves and accept us for who we are. We need to connect to our inner selves, mend relationships within and let go of all the toxicity which has been buckled up inside for so long. Self-compassionate yourself, treat yourself as if you are treating your friend in his hard time. To err is human, we all make mistakes, learn the lesson and allow what you think or feel to have its moment, and then allow yourself to just let it go.
We all have heard about the importance of loving ourselves and treating ourselves with compassion but we fail to imply this in our daily chores. So, let's just start with understanding what Self-compassion really is?
What is the meaning of Self-Compassion?
Self-compassion can be described as being “generous and forbearing when approached with personal shortcomings…”. You should show the same tenderness toward yourself when you experience a rough time that you would show towards a dear friend like observing the distress or noticing yourself and offering affection, warmth, and understanding.
In building our positive mental health, we need to separate ourselves from the judgments of others and stop self-doubting. Our goal is to reach the stage of self-acceptance, don’t let the noise from outside hamper your inner peace. Introspect yourself take a few minutes each day to reflect on your mental being and self-talk as you go about your daily chores.
We live in the era of social media and the Internet, bombarded with perfect selfies and amazing lifestyles of others which is impossible to live up to in the real world. The pressures and judgments that come with social media let many of us feel insecure and constantly judged, and perhaps feel as if we are not as good as our mates. we don’t know what the person with the most amazing life on “social media” facing in his real life. Instead of making our virtual world look perfect, we should work hard offline to make our real-life worth living, and to attain that you don’t just think about it but you work accordingly mere thinking about something won't take you anywhere.
Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are.” ― Marilyn Monroe
Why try to impersonate someone when we can be our own unique selves. Everyone in this world has something unique about themselves and still, most of us try to impersonate whom we look up to, why? why can't we just celebrate our individuality and embrace that distinctiveness? we must work upon accepting our flaws and fall in love with everything that makes us and Falling in love with yourself is the hardest thing to do it's not at all the matter of one night, we need to practice it each day until we attain it.
And the question that wanders around is how to practice self-love? for that first you need to discover four things about yourself:
1. Find purpose in life
2. Acknowledge your weakness and work on it
3. Acknowledge your strength
4. Align your values
Give yourself the time you need to acknowledge what you want in life, think about the things that make you weak and how come you turn your weakness into your strengths, you must try to know yourself more each day. Find areas in your life where you can explore and express your strengths and align your values, you can also travel around the world to figure out what beliefs and values you want to have in life and what works best for you without harming anyone. Manifest your inmost sense to have an earnest desire of being in the world and how you wish to live. You can't make everyone around you happy but yourself. Your happiness and peace lie in your own hand, no one can make you feel bad about yourself if you know your worth and you know who you truly are, what others have to say doesn’t matter, you will be self-contained enough.